When TLC Book Tours approached me with the opportunity to review Jess McCann's book, You Lost Him at Hello: A Saleswoman's Secrets to Closing the Deal with Any Guy You Want, I was apprehensive. Self-help books aren't my usual bag, but given that I'd just been spectacularly surprised by a guy I was interested in that turned out to be MARRIED, I figured it just couldn't hurt. While my dating stories aren't usually quite as "train wreck" as Married Guy (thankfully), a little extra knowledge never hurt anyone.
The basic principles of You Lost Him at Hello are sales strategies. While I've often chosen to think that humans are more evolved than that, that being "sold" by a date is unrealistic, McCann assures her reader that most people would never enter an important situation, job or otherwise, without a solid strategy for success. I can't argue with that. If I won't go into my college classroom to teach my students without a plan or a set of strategies, why would I go into a date that way?
The principles in You Lost Him at Hello are simple and most often relate to concepts that women already know, but often choose to ignore, or have been taught by a love savvy grandmother or mother. Ever heard of playing hard to get? Sure, who hasn't? McCann doesn't call it that, but she certainly urges every woman to maintain a full life and stay in control of the dating situation whether by not being available to jump whenever a man calls, "filling the funnel" with eligible bachelors until you have the relationship talk with the one you really want, or having the self-control to end a date and walk away just when a man is most intrigued. He'll follow shortly after.
I appreciated McCann's candor and humor in the book, and the strategies sound reasonable and very smart. My own problem, like many women, is that I often fall prey to my own excitement and answer all those darn calls or spend too much time with a man at the outset. Must work on those things.
On the downside, the book often read like a catalog of McCann's fabbbbulous relationships which, for this dater, got a little wearing. In fairness, she did use herself, as well as her friends as examples of what to do and what not to do. Her credibility seems secure, which I appreciate since I was apprehensive about reading the book in the first place.
So, what will I do when that cutie from Match.com calls next time? I might just be too busy to answer the phone. I'll get back to him when I can. If he wants to go out? Oh, I have two nights available, Thursday and Sunday, and he'll make time if he can.
The bottom line is really just be cool, confident, friendly, and know yourself well enough to sell your great qualities to a date.
Visit Jess McCann's website HERE.
Note: My apologies to TLC and Jess McCann for posting this review late. It was set to auto-post, but Blogger, in its divine craziness, didn't actually do it.