Thursday, September 20, 2012

I'm Grateful For, Or How I Became Unemployed

Yes, you read that correctly. My super-cool-sounding social media job is no more. Truth be told, it's been a difficult road since I started at the new company. Without being disparaging, I'll just say that I've known for a while that it wasn't a good fit. Despite those concerns, I worked my tail off to do the very best job there was in me to do, and at the end of the day, they weren't displeased with my work or my work ethic -- it was a money thing and an industry thing and a cloudy view of what social media could do for them.

So here I sit, unemployed, a house and a kiddo to support, and I am surprisingly...fine. In the first hours after "the talk" with my boss, I was a mess. Many tears were shed. More a case of wounded pride than anything. A serious case of the what-the-hell-am-I-going-to-do's.

I am a worker. I am not a workaholic necessarily, but I tend to define myself by the work I do. Always have. It runs in the family. So to be jobless FOR THE FIRST TIME (against my will) since the age of 17 (I turn 32 in November) is a bit of a shock to the system. In fact, most of those years -- even in high school -- I had more than one job; sometimes as many as three. That being said, I'm still teaching five online classes. Thank goodness!

So what do I do with myself?

  • I will treat job hunting like a full-time job.
  • I'll tap into every available network I have (in-person, online, and I'm not too proud for nepotism)
  • I will try to head off the blues at the pass -- because I know ups and downs come with this territory
  • I will do everything there is that needs to be done. You do what you have to do. 
I expected to feel bad about this change. I expected to feel sad and mad and a little tortured. But the truth of the matter -- the sweet, wonderful, surprising truth -- is that in the past 48 hours I have felt more love, appreciation, and support than I ever would've anticipated. I am overwhelmingly grateful!

Thank you to all of you who reached out to me on Facebook, Twitter, and via e-mail. I've even had fellow bloggers and social media extraordinaires sending me job postings (quite a few of them). I've received virtual hugs, and sweet notes, and snarky jabs at those who let me go (thanks, guys!). And I feel ok. For the first time in a long time, I feel lighter, happier, more like myself. I know this is the beginning of something better for me. 

I'm grateful for...
  • The opportunity I had that will inevitably improve my resume
  • The friends and family and loved ones who have come to my side to make sure I'm doing ok
  • The offers of help
  • The prayers
  • The love
In the midst of what I expected to be some very dark days, I feel so much relief, confidence, and hope. Thank you, thank you, thank you. All of you.



43 comments:

  1. What a great attitude. You are definitely making lemonade out of lemons. I wish you the best of luck with whatever comes your way.

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  2. We're there for you, dude. Something even better will come along and you a good looking resume.

    Too bad about the company, though it looked like they had great beverages.

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  3. Good luck, Andi. What a postive response: planning, staying focused and positive, and expressing gratitude. You are an inspiration! Will be keeping fingers and toes crossed for you!

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  4. Andi, this is the first mention of I have heard of you losing your job, and I am so, so sorry. Little known fact: my husband lost his job 2 weeks ago, and found employment again, so your prospects are very good, and the only thing I want to send to you are hugs for what you are going through, and prayers to up above for the right job to land in your lap. In fact, I prayed before starting this comment, and will do so as the days progress. You are loved and appreciated. Be well, my friend.

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  5. Best of luck, Andi. You strike me as the type of person that grabs the lemons and turns them into Twisted Lemonade. Cheers to you!

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  6. You are handling this so amazingly and a super awesome person such as yourself will find a ton of fantastic opportunities available to you in no time! When I got let go last year I was a complete miserable mess and still have barely recovered! You're a total inspiration.

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  7. Oh Andi, anyone ever tell you are one kickass extraordinary human being? Yeah, I'm sure plenty have, and I'll just add my name to the list. I'm sort of in awe of your awesome attitude. And I've no doubt that the future holds something all the better for you!!! Good luck, and don't forget just how many people are out here sending nothing but positive thoughts your way!!!

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  8. Good luck with the job hunt! I was laid off at the end of 2010 and during the time before I found another job I realized how strange it was to not go to work everyday. Take advantage of it and while you job hunt full-time, find a minute or two to do a few things you always wished you had time to do.

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  9. Sorry you have to deal with this, but I admire you for your attitude. Wishing you all the best!

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  10. I'm sorry to hear this, but it does sound like it wasn't the job for you? I think you are handling it amazingly, I would have been a blubbering mess for weeks after the 'chat' with the boss.

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  11. Wow, that sucks for losing your job, but on the other hand it sounds more like you've been liberated! All the best with the job search. Keep up the attitude!

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  12. I hope you find employment soon, and with a place where you can and will shine. all the best!

    ~L (omphaloskepsis)

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  13. With your attitude, I feel sure good things are going to come your way very soon!!

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  14. So sorry to hear you lost your job, but wow, you have an amazing attitude. It's great that you have people around you that love and support you so much. Best of luck to you. I hope you find something even better.

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  15. I love your positive attitude, Andi. Best of luck. I think lots of fantastic opportunities will be coming your way!

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  16. You are a person who has many, many talents. A company would be lucky to have you work for them!

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  17. Andi, I'm so sorry about your job but I'm glad you're so upbeat. You are such an awesome person. Fingers crossed that the perfect job will come your way real soon.

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  18. Here for you, Dandi...even from far away. Let me know if I can help in any way or just ask! Xxoo

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  19. Honestly, anyone who doesn't want to employ you is too lame to work for, and that's the truth! Sending all my good vibes your way!!

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  20. Wow! I know it's stressful not to have a job (I feel the same way), but I could tell you weren't entirely happy at that one. Now you're open to something new and awesome!

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  21. I hope something wonderful comes your way.
    I think a lot of people -- not just companies -- are not quite sure how to make social media work for them. Look at Facebook's stock. It's still evolving, but you are definitely a frontierswoman. And you'll do fine.
    Barbara

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  22. Hugs to you and hope this all leads to something far better! I hope that something comes along very soon.

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  23. Awww, we loves our Andi.

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  24. Andi, hugs hugs hugs to you! I just know there's something bigger and better waiting for you just right around the corner. As a fellow Scorpio, I totally understand how you are about the work ethic thing! But maybe this is God's way of helping you to reassess. And you know...the education profession would LURRVVEE to have you back in! (hint hint) Loves!

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  25. Thank goodness for those online classes! Man, I was so shocked when I saw this on Twitter, but I also know that work was insane for you basically since you began.

    I'll keep my eyes peeled!

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  26. One door closes while another one opens, as they say -- and I'm sending huge hugs to you! My sis was recently laid off, so we've been doing some serious job-hunting in my neck of the woods. I know you will be okay: you're awesome and strong and savvy!

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  27. Sending good thoughts your way, my dear. I'm so sorry that the company you were at wasn't smart enough to keep you on. Some people's kids. *SMH* As others have mentioned, when one door closes, another opens, so I'm confident that you, the bright, articulate, and funny gal that you are, will find something, or create something, that will be much, much better for you. Let me know if you need anything at all, we're here for ya.

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  28. You have an awesome attitude about what happened - WOW! You are a rock star! I'm positive that you will find something great soon and will be back to work, work, work! Good luck with the job hunting!

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  29. Hugs! And best wishes for something better to come along!

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  30. Excellent attitude and one that will take you on to better things. My husband was out of a job for a month (august) and as the sole money maker it was a little scary, but also a great opportunity. He is MUCH happier at his new job. I hope your next job comes fast and is a better fit for you.

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  31. Sorry to hear about the job. I hope that youfind something else soon and in the meantime enjoy yourself. I love your positive attitude!

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  32. I've been so remiss at saying that I'm so sorry to hear about job -- both it not working out and losing it. That has been frustrating, especially with where you're at. But I'm sure with your attitude and skills and general kickass-ness, you'll be ok. Hugs!

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  33. Five online classes sounds like a full time job to me. :) Good luck in the job hunt!

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  34. Your positive attitude is so refreshing! I know with an attitude like that, you will find a new job sooner rather than later! Good luck and know that I am definitely here for you if you need anything.

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  35. Andi, you are such an inspiration - what a great attitude! Having just lost my job at the beginning of the year, but it having been a job I was more than ready to be rid of, I can relate to your mixed feelings. It's hard on the ego, but a wonderful chance to find something that will be better for you.

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  36. As one (of the few) who haven't had a full-time job, I have always, always believed that it is WHO we are not WHAT we do.

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  37. Best of luck and you'll come through this all the better for it. and HUGS too!

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  38. Stopping by very late to send virtual hugs your way! I firmly believe that as one door closes other doors will open! Here's hoping that your door opens to the perfect job opportunity for you and your family.

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  39. You're inspiring. It's not easy to look at a difficult situation from a positive place. I'm sure that this is a wonderful new beginning for you. Good luck!

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  40. Andi, been there. It's not easy, I hope you can maintain your positive outlook and that unemployment doesn't last too long. Best wishes.

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  41. So sorry to hear about your job, but your attitude is inspiring! And with that positive attitude you'll find a new job in no time!

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