As the Mediocre White Male in a Leadership Role, I try to relate to every employee on a personal level...to foster a supportive professional environment. For example, I respect your right to skip the stockings and sport your best high heels. I even like to comment on my lady colleagues' tri-colored eye makeup sometimes. I notice the little things.
While our ideal lady employee will have a full list of to-dos, I appreciate gumption and ingenuity.We all pitch in to make sure this is a great place to be. For instance, you might decide to make a pot of coffee or organize a pot luck for everybody. I don't mean that in a "get back in the kitchen" kind of way, but it might be nice if you bring a cobbler from time to time. Oh, and you might want to clean out the break room fridge now and again since you have breasts.
I like to emphasize a healthy work life balance for my employees. It's a big task supplementing your husband's income, after all. Most of the women around here like to get home as close to 5:00 as possible. I mean, your kids will be pretty dang hungry without their mama.
Oh, and I almost forgot! One of the first people you'll meet, a really integral part of the team, is Traitorous Female Collaborator. It takes a while to learn the lay of the land. A pretty steep learning curve and all. TFC will be sure to remind you when you've been too aggressive with a client, if you're just being emotional, or if you should smile more. Oh, and don't forget, we're just crazy for a well-placed exclamation point or smiley-face.
I know the right girl is out there, and I know she has tons of skills. I pride myself on trusting my team. In fact, I don't know anything about what we do! That's why I have smart gals like you to keep things afloat.
Have a good day now,
Disclaimer: An amalgamation of personal experience.