Monday, August 17, 2015

The Myth of the Crappy Blogger

It's another busy, stupid, frustrating work day, and I'm taking five minutes out for lunch before I dive back into a marketing piece that needs to be finished like, now. My stress and anxiety are super high...a symptom of a chaotic workplace. Y'all know this. It's partially the reason why I'm having trouble reading and blogging lately.


So I'm sitting here in my five minutes (maybe ten, now), and eating my grapes, and I'm going through a few random emails in my personal account and I see, "Sorry for Being a Crappy Blogger" in my BlogHer Daily email, and I take a minute or two to read it, and it sounds like things I've written and I want this person to know that they are not, in fact, crappy anything.

Let's face it, we all feel like crappy bloggers sometimes. Maybe we're not consistent or maybe we feel like our creativity is flat, or maybe you're like me and you just need to eat grapes and get back to work. Maybe you're having an especially great summer full of fun trips and kid stuff and family awesomeness and you just don't want to compute. Whether it's good or bad, if it's keeping you from blogging, that doesn't make you a crappy blogger. Crappy blogging is a myth. Life happens.


Most often what I really mean when I say I am a crappy blogger is that I feel like crap because I want to blog (or read) and I don't have time or maybe I just don't have the capacity to hold my head up at night for that extra hour of reading or writing.

This post serves no purpose except to remind myself, and you, that we are vibrant, busy, occupied people. Shit happens. Blog when you can.




35 comments:

  1. Shit does happen. And that's okay. Unless you're piglet. He doesn't look ok.

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    1. I feel like that right now, but I'm OKer than Piglet. lol

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  2. Love this! It's so easy to feel crappy because you've *only* posted once this week, or you've *only* read two books this month, but when you take a step back, the only people putting pressure on us is ourselves.

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    1. Exactly! We need to be nicer to ourselves.

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  3. So true. These sentences I need on a paper right before my laptop!
    "Life happens. Shit happens. Blog when you can."
    :)

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    1. Hahaha, maybe my first tattoo!

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  4. Have I told you lately that I love you? ((hugs))

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  5. As a blog reader who doesn't blog, I have to give this a hearty "AMEN!" Blog when you have time and when you *want* to - anyone who cares about you wants you to be taking care of yourself, not stressing out about getting back to the blog. Of course we miss you when you're gone, but that just means we'll appreciate you all the more when you return. :)

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    1. Awww, that's so nice, Susan! I think the tendency is for bloggers to forget that there's a whole lot of people who read their blogs who are not actually blogging themselves. Seeing other bloggers manage to keep it up when we as individual bloggers are slumping can seem overwhelming. Like we're not as good at it. Though, in truth, that's just part of the myth of the crappy blogger.

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  6. Hear, hear! But, I think once you've been at it for awhile, those feelings come less frequently.

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    1. I agree. For me, after 10 years, those feelings do come less frequently, though when a slump is massive and overwhelming...like this whole year...it can rear its ugly head again.

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  7. Gah I'm always doing that. ^^

    Anyway, I was saying I feel like that should be the name of my blog, Shit Happens. Tagline: I'll see ya when I can. I try not to feel crappy about it because I have more than enough guilt for being disabled and sick. But I think we are all much harder on ourselves than necessary. We feel guilt while the rest of us are like of course it's fine! You're here when you're here and we'll talk to you as you're able! If we can give everyone else that leeway, why can't we do it for ourselves?

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  8. This is exactly how I feel right now. I'm sorry you're having a bad day, I hope it gets better! For what it's worth, I think you do a great job with your blog!

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  9. Your last two sentences. Golden.
    I've accepted this mentality long ago. That is why sometimes I post three times a week, and sometimes not at all. There are times when just opening the computer is too much given that I am on it for 12+ hours for work every day.
    I'd rather post when I have something to say and not just post a bunch of filler memes.

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  10. Totally with you, Andi! Life is stressful enough, we don't need this blogging stress to add onto it.

    Hope the work goes well and smooth!

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  11. OMG, Piglet! When I was in 1st grade a kid named Joey was holding hands and spinning with me. He let go of my hands and I spun into the chalkboard just like Piglet. The edge of the chalk-holder imbedded into the back of my head and I bled like a stuck pig. Of course I was wearing a white blouse that day. Hours later when going home from the hospital after getting stitches, my parents thought it would be funny to stop at grandma's house and had me go ring her doorbell. Grandma almost passed out when she saw 5 or 6 year old me standing on her front porch eating an ice cream cone in my blood splattered white blouse. That was a bad day that turned good. Hope your day ended well, too, and thanks for the reminder!

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  12. And another amen! Life throws curves - we just have to be ready to catch them or at least duck out of the way.

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  13. I'm with you on those last two sentences. I was feeling a bit crap about my lack of blogging and reading, but after reading this I feel much better - THANKS!! :)

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  14. I really needed to see this today. Since my work got crazier (two employees quit within a month of each other) and I got pregnant I've felt exhausted and a bit overwhelmed. I haven't been visiting blogs and commenting. I haven't been blogging as much. I've been rereading favorites more than reading something new. I've just felt like a crappy blogger. I really just need to hear that it's ok and it's not the end of the world. Thanks Andi.

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  15. *cheers* This is an awesome post Andi!

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  16. So, so true. I always get sad when bloggers post those "I am terrible" posts because, of course, while I miss people when they are away, the more important thing is always that blogging should be fun (or what's the point). If it's a time that won't permit regular blogging, it is okay to take a hiatus or post irregularly or whatever works. So this is an important reminder. <3

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  17. Thanks for the reminder, Andi.
    I wish we just could have all the time we wanted for our hobbies!

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  18. Yes, yes, yes!! I particularly needed to hear this right now! Thank you!!

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  19. Well timed. I am currently in the severe crappy blogger category. Weeks of quite than a sporadic post. I hope that part is over because I really miss chatting with everyone :)

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  20. Your timing is impeccable with this. I was just saying on Twitter last night that I'm not certain I want to write a review ever again, not because I don't like writing them but because I just don't have the time or mental capacity right now for them. Feelings of guilt ensued. A sense of grief at the thought of setting aside something that has been me for the past six years. I don't know what I'm going to do or how, but at least you reminded me that whatever I do, whenever I do it, is okay.

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  21. THIS! I wish bloggers didnt feel the need to apologize for their absence. Life happens, shit also happens. It's something everyone should remember and not feel bad about.

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  22. Amen. I actually wrote a blog post similar to this last week because I've been having a bit of a hard time getting words from brain to blog lately too. And you're right - life happens. My computer died, I'm still getting used to WordPress and I've had some serious life stuffs going on and hey, man, we can't do everything all the time. My whole perspective on this is I'll miss my favourite bloggers if they're not around for a bit, but I get it, and as soon as they're back I'll happily read whatever they write next. Over and out.

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  23. AMEN! This was my summer and now until school settles in. "Shit happens. Blog when you can" may have to be my mantra for a bit.

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